I have difficulty accepting compliments. I have long realised that I will give my friends weird look or simply shrug them off if they paid me a compliment.
I don’t know why I can’t accept something nice said of me. I would think that they are either being patronizing me or lying through their teeth.
Perhaps I just have low self esteem that I can’t think of why people would want to compliment me.
This is something I want to work on.
It’s awful to not say ‘Thank you” after someone paid you a compliment, but it’s just so hard for me to say it out, or simply accept that someone had just said something nice of me!
Alright I’m going in circles now, but you get what I mean.
Anyone out there has a suggestion on how I can be more accepting of compliments??
I think you just need to try to be a little more trusting of people. You feel like the compliment has some sort of alterior motive; like they are trying to trick you into trusting them, so they can gain something from you.
This is not always the case. Some people compliment just to be nice, and they like to see you smile.
I would love to compliment more, but generally people think I’m gay if I compliment a man on what he’s wearing, or just plain creepy if I compliment a younger girl.
Hi there!
It’s not so much about thinking that they want to gain something out of me, but somehow I feel they are just fooling around and aren’t being serious about what they said!
I need some work on it.
And I agree with you about not being able to compliment without getting weird responses from others. Guess complimenting is a tricky business!
Don’t stop though, you might just put a smile onto another person’s face :)
Thanks for the note!