Post-flea review & thoughts.

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Last Sunday, Beary Naise held its first flea at Pandora Flea market at Dempsey. To be honest, it was not easy being a total greenhorn, planted amidst all the regular flea -goers. My table was ill-prepared, I arrived late, my table cloth was not long enough (hahaha this was an honest mistake because I was initially given a smaller table dimension), and I was very nervous. My first potential customer asked me how much was the Strawberry Bucket Bag, and my heart was beating so fast that I couldn’t remember. Bleah, I resorted to jotting the prices down on my palm next. So cliche!

To make matters more intimidating, my neighbouring flea-owners had very prettily decorated booths. This, I have a lot to learn from. My first flea experience was not about myself nor was it about my products, it was about observance, and the feeling of just being in it, with everything happening around me. It was surreal, being in an actual flea market, and not the one shopping. Observing how other flea-owners interact with potential customers, interact with each other etc… Observing how some people are potential customers, and how some just want to suss out your products to see if they could make it themselves too. For the handmade flea market scene (not those of clothes), you have to be prepared for people who are DIY-ers or crafters themselves, and who will judge. For that, I really have to up my technical and design skills.

The first step you take is the longest stride. – Author Unknown

Looking back, there are a hell lot of things that I could have done better. But I’m very grateful for this opportunity given by my aunt, and people who were there to support me. My sister, who woke up early to lend a helping hand in setting up the booth, and provide entertainment relief. Haha. Hammy’s mom, who fussed with me about the table cloth the night before, and loaned me small change so I didn’t have to break my bank. Hammy, who drove me to the venue in the morning, then joined his family for mothers’ day lunch, then came back with his mom and cousin, Ashlyn, to pay me a visit. Then he drove his mom back, got me lunch, and then stayed till the end of the flea. Ashlyn, who came with Hammy and stayed to accompany me. And many others, who wished they could come pay me a visit, but had work (yes, mei hung) or simply because Dempsey was too out of the way. Thank you all. They say the first step is always the hardest, but my first step was a result of so many people’s support and well-wishes. Tears are welling up as I write this, but I am really thankful for everyone’s help.

After my first experience at flea, I am more mentally prepared for my next. There is much work to do, and it’s a continuous journey. Do I have the tenacity to keep going, and resources to keep myself afloat…?

He dares to be a fool, and that is the first step in the direction of wisdom. – James Huneker

I really hope the quote is right, and that I am a fool now, but heading for greater plans. Because even as I try to convince myself that this is what I want to do, and that one day I will succeed, there are people who look at me as though I am crazy, immature, lazy, irresponsible, good-for-nothing, and the list goes on. Sometimes they get to me, but more often, I’m determined to prove them wrong. I just hope time is on my side.

Love, Zoe

Hello 2013!

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Happy new year! It’s the time when everyone count their blessings and pen down their hopes and wishes for the new year. For most, we are just glad that the world didn’t really end in Dec, aren’t we? Hah. For me, 2012 was a year of changes and challenges. I graduated from college, and slowly adjusted myself in the working world. Met many kinds of people, both good and bad. But some really awesome people as well, whom I felt I’ve known for years, even though we are more than 20 years apart in age.

I would say, the best thing that happened to me in 2012 was being invited to be the blogger ambassador to raise awareness for Ovarian Cancer. It was really meaningful work as I helped a few brave ladies to connect with each other through my blog.

I also started being serious with BearyNaise, our own shop that sells handmade bags/pouches. I have so many plans coming in the new year, starting with the brand new website and Facebook page which I’m unveiling very soon! :D Gave a lot of thought, and convinced several people. But all I know is, I have Hammy to thank for encouraging me every step of the way, and never giving up on me. It’s not easy, it’s really not, and they always say pursuing your dreams is a leap of faith. But I realised that if it’s something in you, you would do it no matter what. No matter how much you tried to conform to society’s demands in the first place. For me, I never believed that I would be just ordinary.

The dream is just starting, and I’m not giving up. I hold a lot of hopes for BearyNaise in the year 2013, and I’m going to achieve them, by taking baby steps. Haha I should leave the results to speak for itself. Stay tuned!

This is the first time I’m feeling so pumped up about a new year. Previously I’d be like ‘meh’, a new year sucks and there’s nothing to look forward to. I hope my determination lasts, but probably the most important thing that I must overcome is my health and stamina. Haha it’s physically taxing to be working and handling a business at the same time, and I’ve already been to the doctor’s once for exhaustion. :S Doctor’s advice is to EXERCISE. How did he know that that’s what I’ve been trying to do but failed for the longest time? Ok ok I will try. *pulls up blanket and sleeps instead*

Haha, but lastly, thank you readers. It’s because of you that I get sponsored products to review, and also opportunities to attend events. I’m really really thankful. And mostly, the sense of satisfaction that I get when I see ‘Likes’ on my posts. Although I feel a little guilty that my blog has been really stagnant due to my schedule…. (oh my, I really miss sitting down and writing my heart out like this) So thank you! :)

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Best wishes to everyone. Just be happy.
Xoxo,
Zoe

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What’s weighing on my mind.

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Recently, I’ve been seeing a lot of tweets from people stating that they like to associate themselves with positive people and stay away from negative people. I agree that it is a good feeling to be always surrounded by happy people, and those who are motivated to move on to a better position in life. I try to do it myself.. Blanketing myself from all that negativity from two-faced people/person who keeps on picking on me really helped me to focus on the important things in life, and those who truly care for me.

But I’ve been seeing the message too often, and that got me thinking… If everyone just wanted to be with the happy people, will sad, neurotic people still have friends? Or maybe if a person is cheerful most of the time, but hits a rough patch in life, will those who said they’d rather be with happy people still associate with him/her? Or would they leave and be with those who can live like life’s just a big party?

The question is, how do those people from twitter/blogs look so happy all the time? Don’t they have down times? Have they ever felt their life crashing down like Jenga blocks, and yet still portray a happy facade to the world? Maybe they haven’t and their worlds are really rainbows and unicorns! And that’s why we read their blogs. Haha.

People like to see pretty photos and read beautiful words. Well, at least, that’s what the online world is becoming to me.

I feel, there’s bound to be ups and downs in life. Surely no one can remain upbeat about tomorrow? Correct me if I’m wrong.. If I fell into a pit one day (not literally) and needed help from friends, I’d hope they wouldn’t just skip away and leave me in a corner. But for now, I’m confident in my confidantes. Also in Hammy, who will take all the shit I throw at him and still wave a hand and say, “I’m here”.

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Hence, I am a little scared when I see such messages on Twitter. Scared of being left behind if I showed even a little sign of whiny-ness, negativity, or anger. Haha it seems like a lot of people are subscribing to this way of thinking. Although, I don’t know how much of it translate to actions. I don’t think they will actually desert friends in need, nor actually move away from sad friends to mix with happy ones. Maybe, they are just implying that all their friends at the moment are positive people, you know how they say birds of a feather flock together.

Well, in any case.

Maybe it’s time to take a step back and ponder on what my existence on the internet means. What is the benchmark of success in the blogosphere? Attending loads of events, attaining some form of recognition and respect, sponsored and paid for loads of posts? Sounds glamourous. Do I want to actively work towards that, or just be comfortable with sharing bits of my life and let things take its natural course?

How about you? What is your true purpose of blogging and what does your existence in the blogosphere mean?

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